Use Your Words

Posted by: , August 25, 2008 in 3:12 pm


Before I had a child, I swore like a trucker. [No offense to any clean-living, non-swearing truckers out there.]  The F-bomb was a good friend of mine.  I used it as an adjective, a noun, and a verb.  Given the opportunity, I could conjugate it with the best of them.

Since having Ben, I rarely use profanity.  Even G-rated profanity has somehow evaporated from my vocabulary.  I figure there are a couple of reasons why this happened:  First, I don’t particularly want my preschooler to exclaim at Story Time, “Damn it, I wanted to hear Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus, not that lame-assed Goodnight Moon again!”  Secondly, I rarely feel the necessity to weave together a string of profanity; the only person I speak to in an eight hour day is a three-year-old.  Now, when I worked for Corporate America, I had myriad opportunities to unleash verbal warfare.  Not so much now.

More and more it is becoming clear to me that despite a complete overhaul of my pre-baby lexicon, I am no saint.  My son has begun using words like idiot, stupid, and hate.  I don’t have to look far to understand why; we feed him a steady diet of odious vocabulary.  

Every week, upon my arrival home from the grocery store, I complain about the ‘idiot’ who bagged my groceries.  My mother and I kibitz about the woman across the street and how she acts so ‘stupid.’  My husband and I gripe and moan about how much we ‘hate’ the president, the price of gas, the war in Iraq.  You name it and we vilify it.  And who is listening to this constant barrage?  The same child around whom, I am so careful not to swear.


So, we are all making a concerted effort to further develop our vocabularies.  You hear mommies say it all the time–use your words.  Instead, I plan to better choose my words.




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  1. suzyq on August 30th, 2008 3:47 pm

    I too have been challenged with watching what I say. It’s hard to break the habit. When my daughter was 3 years old she said the f-bomb in preschool. I was horrified. I changed my ways very quickly!

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